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AsSalaamou alikum wa rahmatuallah wa barakatuhu,

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Is it important to have peice of a man( meaning he ain't not good on any level); or don't have a man at all? What  your opinion comment below.

Personally I would rather be by my self than just have a body in a bed. Ijs

Re Posted: Characteristics of Righteous Woman Pt.2

Characteristics of Righteous Woman Pt.2


Tolerates harm for the sake of the religion: The wife of Qays ibn Al-Khateem, who was named Hawwaa’, converted to Islam, but he used to try to avert her from Islam and annoy her while she was prostrating by pushing her and turning her over her head. While he was at Makkah (Mecca) before Hijrah, the Prophet, was told the news of the Ansaar (Helpers) and he was told about the wife of Qays and the harm that she had been subjected to. During the pilgrimage season, the Prophet, met him and said: “Your wife converted to Islam and you harm her and I would like you to stop doing this!” (Al-Isaabah fi Tamyeez As-Sahaabah by Ibn Hajar 8/11064) · Patient during times of afflictions: Silah ibn Ashyam participated in a battle along with his son. He said to his son, “O son! Go ahead and fight so that I seek the reward of Allaah for losing you!” His son fought until he was killed, then Silah fought and he was killed as well. Women gathered around his wife, Mu‘aathah, so she said, “If you have come to congratulate me, then you are welcome, but if you have come for any other reason, then return!” (Siyar A‘laam An-Nubalaa’ by Ath-Thahabi 3/498) · Keen on the interest of her children: Umm Sulaym believed in the Prophet, and her husband, Abu Anas, who had been away, returned and asked her: “Have you apostatized?” She said, “I have simply believed in this man!” She kept teaching their son, Anas how to profess the testimony of faith. Once, as she was telling him to testify that 'there is none worthy of worship except Allaah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allaah!', his father admonished her, “Do not corrupt my son!” She said, “I am not corrupting him.” (At-Tabaqaat Al-Kubra by Ibn Sa‘d 8/425) · Respects her husband: The wife of Sa‘eed ibn Al-Musayyib said, “We used to speak to our husbands in the same manner in which you speak to your commanders!” (Hilyat Al-Awliyaa’ 5/168) · Endeavors to serve her husband: Asmaa’ bint Abu Bakr said, “When Az-Zubayr married me, he had no property nor did he have any slave. I used to feed his horse with fodder and draw water and sew the bucket for drawing it, and prepare the dough, but I was good at baking bread. I used to carry date stones on my head from Zubayr's land which was two thirds a Farsakh (about two miles) from my house.” [Al-Bukhaari 4926] · Shares her husband’s feelings: Once, ‘Abdullaah ibn Rawaahah shed tears and his wife shed tears as well, so he asked her, “Why do you shed tears?” She said, “I shed tears because you shed tears!” He said, “I know that I will pass by Hell (on the Siraat) and I did not know if I would survive it or not.” (Siyar A‘laam An-Nubalaa‘ by Ath-Thahabi 1/236) · Faithful to her husband after his death: Umm Ad-Dardaa’ said to her husband, Abu Ad-Dardaa’ : “You proposed to me in this life and my parents married me to you and I want you to be my husband in the Hereafter!” He told her, “Then, do not get married after my death!” Mu‘aawiyah proposed to her after the death of her husband, but she refused. (Al-Isaabah Fi Tamyeez As-Sahaabah by Ibn Hajar 8/74) · Diligent to learn knowledge of the Sharee‘ah (Islamic legislation). Faatimah, the daughter of Shaykh ‘Alaa’ Ad-Deen As-Samarqandi was brought up well by her father and she was a knowledgeable jurist who memorized the book that her father wrote, Tuhfat Al-Fuqahaa’. Some kings knew about what she had done; so they proposed to her, but her father refused. After this, one of the students of her father, Al-Kaasaani came and wrote Badaa’i‘ As-Sanaa’i‘, which is an explanation of the book of his Shaykh the Tuhfah, and presented it to his Shaykh As-Samarqandi. His Shaykh was very happy with this book, married him to his daughter and made this book her dowry. Her husband would sometimes make a mistake and she would correct it for him. Fatwas were passed with her approval and her father’s. After her marriage, Fatwas would have her approval, as well as her father’s, and her husband’s approval. (Al-Fawaa’id Al-Bahiyyah by Al-Laknawi) · Seeks what is lawful and avoids what is prohibited: Maymoonah bint Al-Aqra‘ wanted to sell the spun yarn that she had made, so she gave to the spinner and told him, “When you sell it tell the buyer that it may not be tightly spun because I was fasting!” After that she went to the spinner and asked him to give her the spun yarn back as she was afraid that he might not tell people what she had told him. (A‘laam An-Nisaa’ by Ridha Kahaalah 5/138) · Calls to the way of Allaah The Almighty. Umm Shareek accepted Islam when she was in Makkah, then she started going to the women of the Quraysh secretly calling them to embrace Islam until the people of Makkah discovered what she was doing. Thus, they took her and told her that they would have punished her severely, if it were not for her family and kinfolk. They returned her to her people. (Sifat As-Safwah by Ibn Al-Jawzi 2/53)

Repost: Characteristics of Rigtheous Woman Part 1

Characteristics Of A Righteous Woman Pt.1

 Ziyaad ibn Abeeh the Umayyad statesman, asked those who were sitting with him, “Who leads the most blissful life?” They replied, “The Commander of the Believers does!” He said, “No. The man who leads the most blissful life is a Muslim man who is married to a Muslim woman and they have enough sustenance, and each of them is happy and satisfied with their partner! This man does not know us and we do not know him!” Who is this woman who was admired by the most eloquent and most shrewd man among the Arabs? She is the woman who is chaste and virtuous. A woman whose face is shining with purity, whose heart shines with the glory of obedience to Allaah The Almighty and whose outer appearance reflects dignity and arouses reverence. This is the woman who is faithful in dedicating her heart, emotions and thoughts to her husband. Some of the characteristics of such woman are: · She offers sound opinions and advice: Saffaanah bint Haatim At-Taa’i went to her brother after she met the Messenger of Allaah and started to tell her brother about Islam. Her brother asked her, “What do you think of this man?” She replied, “I think we should follow him!” [Al-Isaabah 8/108] · She sacrifices family and homeland for the sake of supporting the religion: Umm Kulthoom bint ‘Uqbah emigrated from Makkah (Mecca) to Madeenah for the sake of her religion while she was still a girl who had never been married. She left her father who was an evil man, comparable to a devil in human form. After that, her brothers pursued her, so she said to the Prophet, , “Would you let them take me back [in order to] turn me back from my religion, low as my endurance is and as weak as you know women are?’’ [Al-Bukhaari 4/3945] · Hastens to do good deeds: In the following story, the female companion gave an excellent practical example of this. The Prophet, had a guest and asked his wives if they had any food, but they all said that they only had water. Hence, the Prophet, asked his Companions: “Who can host this man?” One of the Ansaar (Helpers) said that he could do that and took the guest home. The man asked his wife to be generous with the guest of the Prophet, , but she told him that they had nothing except a little food for their children. The husband asked her to prepare the meal, light the lamp and let the children sleep if they asked for dinner. The wife prepared the meal, lit her lamp and made her children sleep. Then, she stood up pretending to mend her lamp, but she put it off. Then both she and her husband pretended to be eating before their guest, while in reality, they really went to bed hungry. In the morning, the Ansari man went to the Messenger of Allaah, who said: “Tonight, Allaah laughed or wondered at your action.” Allaah The Almighty revealed the verse (which means): {But give [them] preference over themselves, even though they are in privation. And whoever is protected from the stinginess of his soul - it is those who will be the successful.} [Quran 59:9] [Al-Bukhaari 3798] · Her chastity is beyond what minds can conceive: Mu‘aawiyah ibn Abu Sufyaan went to his wife, Maysoon bint Bahdal, accompanied by a castrated servant. On seeing the slave, [the unveiled] wife became very anxious and asked her husband disapprovingly,“Who is he?!” Her husband comforted her by saying, “Do not worry; he is just a castrated slave.” The righteous wife replied, “Still, he is a non-Mahram (marriageable man) to me; even castration does not allow for him what Allaah The Exalted has made prohibited.” She refused that the castrated slave would enter the house [while she was not wearing Hijaab (Islamic covering)]. [Al-Bidaayah wa An-Nihaayah by Ibn Katheer 148/8] · Honors the rites ordained by Allaah The Almighty: In the year sixty-five after Hijrah, Jameelah, the daughter of the governor of Mosul, performed Hajj and had four hundred camels and many Hawdajs to the extent that one could not know on which one she was staying. She emancipated five hundred slaves and gave fifty thousand dresses to charity. (Siyar A‘laam An-Nubalaa’ by Ath-Thahabi) · Does what is right without fearing criticism: ‘Eesa ibn ‘Allaam ‘Uthmaan said, “I was at Faatimah bint ‘Ali’s house both, and a man came praising her father. She took ash and threw it at his face.” [Tabaqaat ibn Sa‘ad 8/466] · Devout worshipper: Al-Haytham ibn Jammaaz said, “I was married to a woman who does not sleep at night [as she would be praying all the night]. I could not stay up late with her, but she would sprinkle water and nudge me with her foot while saying, ‘Are you not shy of Allaah? For how long would this snoring go on?’ (He said), By Allaah! I would be ashamed of myself considering what she did.” (Ta‘theem Qadr As-Salaah 2/ 835) · Abstinent regarding worldly temptations. Al-Waaqidi narrated that once it was the eve of `Eed and he had nothing, so he went to one of his friends who was a merchant and borrowed one thousand dinars sealed in a bag. When he returned home, one of his friends from Bani Haashim from the family of the Prophet, came to him and told him that he was in need. Al-Waaqidi went to his wife and told her about this. She asked, “What will you do?” He replied, “I will give him half the money in the bag!” She said, “This is nothing! One of the family of the Prophet, comes to you and you give him half the bag!” Therefore, Al-Waqidi gave him all the money. The merchant was a friend of this man and asked him to lend him money. The Haashimi man gave him the same bag, so he recognized it. When the ruler knew about their story, he rewarded every one of their men one thousand dinars and gave the woman four thousand dinars, and said,“She is the most generous one among you!” (Siyar A‘laam An-Nubalaa’ by Ath-Thahabi 9/467)

The Improprt Practice of Polygny

THE IMPROPER PRACTICE OF POLYGNY

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Who is a true Believer?

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. [قَدْ أَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ - الَّذِينَ هُمْ فِى صَلاَتِهِمْ خَـشِعُونَ - وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُّعْرِضُونَ - وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِلزَّكَـوةِ فَـعِلُونَ - وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَـفِظُونَ - إِلاَّ عَلَى أَزْوَجِهِمْ أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَـنُهُمْ فَإِنَّهُمْ غَيْرُ مَلُومِينَ - فَمَنِ ابْتَغَى وَرَآءَ ذلِكَ فَأُوْلَـئِكَ هُمُ الْعَادُونَ - وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لاًّمَـنَـتِهِمْ وَعَهْدِهِمْ رَعُونَ ] وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَلَى صَلَوتِهِمْ يُحَـفِظُونَ- أُوْلَـئِكَ هُمُ الْورِثُونَ- الَّذِينَ يَرِثُونَ الْفِرْدَوْسَ هُمْ فِيهَا خَـلِدُونَ-] (1. Successful indeed are the believers.) (2. Those who with their Salah are Khashi`un.) (3. And those who turn away from Al-Laghw.) (4. And those who pay the Zakah.) (5. And those who guard their private parts.) (6. Except from their wives or their right hand possessions, for then, they are free from blame.) (7. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors.) (8. Those who are faithfully true to their Amanat and to their covenants are Ra`un.) (9. And those who strictly guard their Salawat.) (10. These are indeed the heirs. ) (11. Who shall inherit Firdaws. They shall dwell therein forever.)

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The Best Jihad for Women

In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficient, the Most Merciful   Assalamualaikum wa rahmathullahi wa barakaathuhu!   Ummul Momineen `Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her) reported: I said: "O Messenger of Allah! ( sallallahu alayhi wasallam ) We consider Jihad as the best deed, should we not then go for Jihad?''   The Messenger of Allah ( sallallahu alayhi wasallam ) said,

Varying Forms of Wrong Backbiting

Assalamualaikum wa rahmathullahi wa barakaathuhu!   The Varying Forms of Wrongful Backbiting Shaikh ul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah [rahimahullaah] Majmoo' al-fataawaa Shaikh ul Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah vol 28 pages 236-238 There are found amongst the people those that will backbite in accordance to his gathering and his companions and his associates. Whilst his knowing that the one being backbitten is free of what it is they say – or of some of what they say. However; he sees that if he were to forbid them then the sitting will cease and the people of the sitting would become sullen with him just as they would become estranged from him. So he sees compliance with them through good social relations as well as good companionship; so when they become angered then he likewise becomes angry due to their being angered – so he takes it up with them. Then there are those that take backbiting out into many forms. So at times it would be in the form of Religion and rectification, so he will say: 'I am not in the habit of mentioning anyone except in good; and I neither like backbiting nor lies. However I shall inform you of his affairs.' So He will say: 'By Allaah – he is Miskeen (weak/pitied) – or he is a good man; however he has in him such and such.' Or he may say: 'let us leave off him; may Allaah forgive him and us.' Whilst his intent is to belittle him as well as causing a wrong to his flank. Thus taking the backbiting out from the form of rectification and Religion. They seek to deceive Allaah with that just as they deceive the creation. For we have seen this and its like from them in many varying colours. Then there are those that will elevate other than himself out of showing off – and then raise himself. So he will say: 'If I had supplicated for so and so last night in my prayer; then there would have reached me from him such and such.' So as to raise himself whilst putting him down with the one that may have faith in him. Or he may say: 'so and so is dull in intelligence and has little understanding. ' So his intent is the praise of himself and establishing his awareness of him – and that he is better than him. Likewise from them are those that are carried by envy upon backbiting; and so will gather between two ugly affairs: backbiting as well as envy. So when an individual is praised, then he will try to remove that from him through showing his deficiencies in the form of Religion and rectification – or in the form of envy and immorality and dispraise – in order to remove that from him. Then there are those that take backbiting out into the form of mockery and play; in order to bring laughter to other than himself through his joking and his mimicry and his belittling of the one he is joking about. Then there are those that take backbiting out into the form of amazement; so he will say: 'I am amazed at so and so at how he does not do such and such?! And from so and so as to how he fell into such and such; and how he did such and such.' Thus pronouncing his name during the course of his amazement. There are those from them that show sorrow; so he will say: 'so and so is weak/pitied, it has caused me sorrow for what has happened to him and what the outcome was for him.' So he who hears him thinks that he has sorrow for him and that he is regretful and that his heart is covered in the attainment of recovery for him; and if it were possible then he would add to that which was with him. He may also mention him in front of his enemies so that they may profit from it. So this; and other than it is from amongst the greatest of the sicknesses of the heart as well as deceitfulness to Allaah and His creation. From them are those that make apparent backbiting through the form of anger and disapproving something abominable. So there becomes manifest in this aspect certain things from the adornment of speech which contains fallacies. Whilst his intent was other than what he made apparent. And Allaah's aid is sought.

The Difference between advice and backbiting

The difference between advice and backbiting Shaykhul Islaam Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah The difference between advice and backbiting is that the intent behind advice is to warn the Muslim against an innovator, deceiver or an evil doer. So you will mention about him that which is necessary if one was to seek counsel from you about his companionship, having business transactions or any type of attachment with him as the Messenger صلى الله عليه و سلم said to Faatimah Bint Qays when she went to him seeking counsel concerning marriage to Mu'aawiyah (Ibn Abi Sufyaan) or Abu Jahm, so he صلى الله عليه و سلم said to her: "As for Mu'awiyyah then he is a poor man and as for Abu Jahm then he used to beat his women." ...(as explained in a narration in Saheeh Muslim: Hadeeth: 1480-47. The chapter of divorce), and some of his (Abu Jahm's) companions used to advise those who traveled with him that when you leave his land (where he is known) then be cautious of him (i.e. be cautious of marring him because he is known for beating his women). So if Backbiting occurs in a manner in which it is advice for the pleasure of Allaah and loving the sunnah of His Messenger صلى الله عليه و سلم and (loving) His slaves from amongst the Muslims, then it is a means of closeness to Allaah and from hasanaat (the acts of good). And if it takes place in a manner where it is to humiliate your brother and to tear up his honor and to take delight in his flesh and to bite at it and to lower his place from the hearts of the people, then this is a disease that is incurable and a fire of hassanaat (good deeds) that burns them just as fire burns up wood.   Wasalamualaikum!

The Mother Of Ishmaeel

The mother of Ishmael Sahih Bukhari Volume 4, Book 55, Number 583: Narrated Ibn Abbas: The first lady to use a girdle was the mother of Ishmael. She used a girdle so that she might hide her tracks from Sarah. Abraham brought her and her son Ishmael while she was suckling him, to a place near the Ka'ba under a tree on the spot of Zam-zam, at the highest place in the mosque. During those days there was nobody in Mecca, nor was there any water So he made them sit over there and placed near them a leather bag containing some dates, and a small water-skin containing some water, and set out homeward. Ishmael's mother followed him saying, "O Abraham! Where are you going, leaving us in this valley where there is no person whose company we may enjoy, nor is there anything (to enjoy)?" She repeated that to him many times, but he did not look back at her Then she asked him, "Has Allah ordered you to do so?" He said, "Yes." She said, "Then He will not neglect us," and returned while Abraham proceeded onwards, and on reaching the Thaniya where they could not see him, he faced the Ka'ba, and raising both hands, invoked Allah saying the following prayers:   'O our Lord! I have made some of my offspring dwell in a valley without cultivation, by Your Sacred House (Kaba at Mecca) in order, O our Lord, that they may offer prayer perfectly. So fill some hearts among men with love towards them, and (O Allah) provide them with fruits, so that they may give thanks.' (14.37) Ishmael's mother went on suckling Ishmael and drinking from the water (she had). When the water in the water-skin had all been used up, she became thirsty and her child also became thirsty. She started looking at him (i.e. Ishmael) tossing in agony; She left him, for she could not endure looking at him, and found that the mountain of Safa was the nearest mountain to her on that land. She stood on it and started looking at the valley keenly so that she might see somebody, but she could not see anybody. Then she descended from Safa and when she reached the valley, she tucked up her robe and ran in the valley like a person in distress and trouble, till she crossed the valley and reached the Marwa mountain where she stood and started looking, expecting to see somebody, but she could not see anybody. She repeated that (running between Safa and Marwa) seven times."     The Prophet said, "This is the source of the tradition of the walking of people between them (i.e. Safa and Marwa). When she reached the Marwa (for the last time) she heard a voice and she asked herself to be quiet and listened attentively. She heard the voice again and said, 'O, (whoever you may be)! You have made me hear your voice; have you got something to help me?" And behold! She saw an angel at the place of Zam-zam, digging the earth with his heel (or his wing), till water flowed from that place. She started to make something like a basin around it, using her hand in this way, and started filling her water-skin with water with her hands, and the water was flowing out after she had scooped some of it."     The Prophet added, "May Allah bestow Mercy on Ishmael's mother! Had she let the Zam-zam (flow without trying to control it) (or had she not scooped from that water) (to fill her water-skin), Zam-zam would have been a stream flowing on the surface of the earth." The Prophet further added, "Then she drank (water) and suckled her child. The angel said to her, 'Don't be afraid of being neglected, for this is the House of Allah which will be built by this boy and his father, and Allah never neglects His people.' The House (i.e. Kaba) at that time was on a high place resembling a hillock, and when torrents came, they flowed to its right and left. She lived in that way till some people from the tribe of Jurhum or a family from Jurhum passed by her and her child, as they (i.e. the Jurhum people) were coming through the way of Kada'. They landed in the lower part of Mecca where they saw a bird that had the habit of flying around water and not leaving it. They said, 'This bird must be flying around water, though we know that there is no water in this valley.' They sent one or two messengers who discovered the source of water, and returned to inform them of the water. So, they all came (towards the water)." The Prophet added, "Ishmael's mother was sitting near the water. They asked her, 'Do you allow us to stay with you?" She replied, 'Yes, but you will have no right to possess the water.' They agreed to that." The Prophet further said, "Ishmael's mother was pleased with the whole situation as she used to love to enjoy the company of the people. So, they settled there, and later on they sent for their families who came and settled with them so that some families became permanent residents there. The child (i.e. Ishmael) grew up and learnt Arabic from them and (his virtues) caused them to love and admire him as he grew up, and when he reached the age of puberty they made him marry a woman from amongst them.     After Ishmael's mother had died, Abraham came after Ishmael's marriage in order to see his family that he had left before, but he did not find Ishmael there. When he asked Ishmael's wife about him, she replied, 'He has gone in search of our livelihood.' Then he asked her about their way of living and their condition, and she replied, 'We are living in misery; we are living in hardship and destitution,' complaining to him. He said, 'When your husband returns, convey my salutation to him and tell him to change the threshold of the gate (of his house).' When Ishmael came, he seemed to have felt something unusual, so he asked his wife, 'Has anyone visited you?' She replied, 'Yes, an old man of so-and-so description came and asked me about you and I informed him, and he asked about our state of living, and I told him that we were living in a hardship and poverty.' On that Ishmael said, 'Did he advise you anything?' She replied, 'Yes, he told me to convey his salutation to you and to tell you to change the threshold of your gate.' Ishmael said, 'It was my father, and he has ordered me to divorce you. Go back to your family.' So, Ishmael divorced her and married another woman from amongst them (i.e. Jurhum).     Then Abraham stayed away from them for a period as long as Allah wished and called on them again but did not find Ishmael. So he came to Ishmael's wife and asked her about Ishmael. She said, 'He has gone in search of our livelihood.' Abraham asked her, 'How are you getting on?' asking her about their sustenance and living. She replied, 'We are prosperous and well-off (i.e. we have everything in abundance).' Then she thanked Allah' Abraham said, 'What kind of food do you eat?' She said. 'Meat.' He said, 'What do you drink?' She said, 'Water." He said, "O Allah! Bless their meat and water." The Prophet added, "At that time they did not have grain, and if they had grain, he would have also invoked Allah to bless it." The Prophet added, "If somebody has only these two things as his sustenance, his health and disposition will be badly affected, unless he lives in Mecca." The Prophet added," Then Abraham said Ishmael's wife, "When your husband comes, give my regards to him and tell him that he should keep firm the threshold of his gate.' When Ishmael came back, he asked his wife, 'Did anyone call on you?' She replied, 'Yes, a good-looking old man came to me,' so she praised him and added. 'He asked about you, and I informed him, and he asked about our livelihood and I told him that we were in a good condition.' Ishmael asked her, 'Did he give you any piece of advice?' She said, 'Yes, he told me to give his regards to you and ordered that you should keep firm the threshold of your gate.' On that Ishmael said, 'It was my father, and you are the threshold (of the gate). He has ordered me to keep you with me.' Then Abraham stayed away from them for a period as long as Allah wished, and called on them afterwards. He saw Ishmael under a tree near Zamzam, sharpening his arrows. When he saw Abraham, he rose up to welcome him (and they greeted each other as a father does with his son or a son does with his father). Abraham said, 'O Ishmael! Allah has given me an order.' Ishmael said, 'Do what your Lord has ordered you to do.' Abraham asked, 'Will you help me?' Ishmael said, 'I will help you.' Abraham said, Allah has ordered me to build a house here,' pointing to a hillock higher than the land surrounding it." The Prophet added, "Then they raised the foundations of the House (i.e. the Ka'ba). Ishmael brought the stones and Abraham was building, and when the walls became high, Ishmael brought this stone and put it for Abraham who stood over it and carried on building, while Ishmael was handing him the stones, and both of them were saying, 'O our Lord! Accept (this service) from us, Verily,   You are the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.' The Prophet added, "Then both of them went on building and going round the Ka'ba saying: O our Lord ! Accept (this service) from us, Verily, You are the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing." (2.127

A Word for Women

AsSalam Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakaatuhu A word for Women By Shaykh Badiuddeen Shah ar-Raashidee as-Sindhee from "Khutubaat Raashidiyyah" Translated By: Abu Ahmad source: therighteouspath. com   The mother of the believers Aa'ishah, radiallaahu , has narrated more than two thousand Ahadith. She was the teacher of all in knowledge and jurisprudence. The Sahaaba used to turn to her (for solutions) for the biggest of the issues.   After the Aayah of Ah zaab was revealed the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu alaihi wasllam asked her to consult with her father (Abu Bakr) and decide if she would prefer the splendor of this world or The hereafter(i. e. the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu alaihi wasallam)? The mother of the believers, Aa'ishah radiallaahu  said in reply, 'I need no consultation in this matter with my parents, I prefer the Aakhirah (i.e. the Messenger of Allaah sallallaahu alaihi wasallam) better than this world.'   Asma' bint Umais radiallaahu anha, the wife of Abu Bakr radiallaahu anhu was a very patient woman. When she learnt about The killing of her son, Muhammad  bin Abee Bakr radiallaahu anhu , then instead of crying and wailing, she took control over her anger and sat in the Masjid quietly. Due to which she bled.   The Taabi'iyyah, Ummus Suhba' was a worshipping and abstentious woman. Inher illness she was presented with a special kind of intoxicant in a cup. She supplicated to Allaah, 'O Allaah! If You know that Your Messenger has indeed forbidden this intoxicant, then safeguard me from it and cure me with out using it.' (Then) the cup broke and The intoxicant flowed down and she was cured.   (She) used to wake up in the night and say, that she was astonished about her eyes, that they knew that they had to sleep for a long time in the grave and in spite of that they want to sleep here!!    [Translators Footnote] This is a part of a Khutbah by Allaamah Shaykh Badiuddeen ar-Raashidee as-Sindhee taken from Khutubaat Raashidiyyah. p.122-123 The title is chosen by the Translator.   [Translators Footnote] "O Prophet (Muhammad sallallaahu alaihi wasallam)! Say to your wives: If you desire the life of this world, and its glitter, Then come! I will makea provision for you and set you free in a handsome manner (divorce)." (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:28)    [Translators Footnote] There seems to be some words missing here. It is not clear if what follows is said about the Ummus Suhba' or someone else.   Umm ad-Darda' as-Sugraa was told that someone is complaining (or mentioning something wrong) about you to The Khalifa Abdul Maalik. Then she replied thatshe did not care, if someone has illegally accused me then someone must haveillegally praised me as well (which I may not deserve ).   When Laila, the grandmother of Khalifah Umar bin Abdul Azeez, was a small child, one elderly lady from the household told her when the latter part of thenight had set in that, 'Add water to the milk as it is time for morning.' She replied,'How can I add water to the milk when the Ameer ul-Mu'mineen (Umar radiallaahu anhu) has forbidden it.' The woman said, 'O you foolish one! IsAmeer ul-Mu'mineed looking right now?' The little girl replied, 'But Allaah iswatching me! I will not do such a thing.'   There are many such incidents from which my sisters can take a lesson. I would ask them that instead of other stories and novels they take up studying the translations of Qur'an and Hadeeth. Due to which not only will they correct themselves but their children as well will gain benefit from it. Allaah Ta'alaa commanded the Messenger's sallallaah u alaihi wasallam wives that the recitationof Qur'an and Hadeeth should be done in their homes.   And your homes should be like theirs, such that the Qur'an and Hadeeth isrecited and the translations are studied and they are memorized.   [Translators Footnote] This addition mentioned in the same story narrated on page 99 Seerah Umar bin Abdil Azeez by Abdullaah bin Abdil H akim p.17-18 [Translators Footnote] The author is referring to this Aayah. "And remember (O you the members of the Prophet's family, the G races of your Lord), that which is recited in your houses of the Vers es of Allaah and al-Hikmah (i.e. Prophet's Sunnah)." (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:34)

News Reel: Racism in Wresting Source Muslimahwatch

As salaamou alikunna , I thought this was interesting even Wrestling is not my thing. but i have watched it b4 it has always irritated me How they Portray Muslims  or Arab Men and now Muslim Women. Tell me what you i looked some feed on Youtube about this women Melissa A.k.A Raisha Sayeed...lol any how All it does is makes them look Stupid My Dh said Oh my She has an Haraam Niqab (Mind you never heard that One) He Said it hides nothing and shows Everything. Shameful!! Wresting is good for the Fighting but when you throw Half Naked or Fake Muslim into it Bring it all to the burning gate lol I my self done;t like the men Wrestling either I don't want see your Awrah ewwwwwww. Make me sick So I don't Watch it all a big Fitnah you ask me Fight with clothing on Please!! Then maybe i watch and use some of the Moves in the Street!! Sike:) But on a Serious notet Shaking my head from Right to left. As the old saying goes Thsi world is going to hell in a hand basket. By the Pound: Racism in the Wrestling Ring August 25, 2008 Posted by Fatemeh in Television. Tags: Muslim women, racism, wrestling 10 comments Last night, as I was flipping through the channels, I stopped on the Spike network, which is geared toward a male audience (well, most television is geared toward a male audience, but that's a different soapbox). Perhaps I should say heavily geared toward a male audience. I mean, between the James Bond marathons, Axe commercials, and ultimate fighting programs, it starts to get a little, uh, over-done. The same way the Lifetime network's pregnancy test commercials and movies about victimized women start to get ridiculous.* Anyway, let's get to the real reason I stopped on this channel. TNA Impact is basically another one of Spike's wrestling programs, and it was this program that caught my attention. Because there was a woman in a niqab wrestling. Really! After digging around online, I found out who she was: her stage name is Raisha Saeed. Saeed's biography details that she is from Damacus, Syria, and manages another female wrestler, Awesome Kong. Rooting around a little more, I find out that she is not, in fact, Muslim (put on your surprised face!) or Syrian. Her real name is Melissa Marie Anderson. She usually goes by the stage name of Cheerleader Melissa, and has a very long and impressive wrestling career. I wasn't able to figure out why Ms. Anderson, who has two other stage names, would don a niqab, a fakey Arab accent and broken English, and an Arab (-sounding) stage name. Wrestling programs are full of gimmicky personas, and so I'm assuming that's what this is, too. From the mysterious Arab music that plays when she enters the ring to her MySpace page, it's one huge (racist) gimmick. TNA Impact had an "interview" with Saeed and the female wrestler she manages: a black woman whose stage name is Awesome Kong. During the interview, Saeed speaks for herself and as a mouthpiece for Kong, who just sat there and actively looked menacing. And, of course, Saeed's niqab came up in the interview. The interviewer asks, "One of the aspects, I think, of your mystery comes from the dress you wear. What is the story behind the burka?" "My burqa is none of your concern." Nevermind that it's a niqab, not a burqa. Past this, however, no mention of her clothing or of Islam enters into the stage persona. In the admittedly limited clips I've seen, there is no mention of jihad or death to infidels–things that usually come up in racist portrayals of Arabs and Muslims. Thankfully, Islam seems to be left alone, aside from her headgear and the fact that, as a gimmicky Arab wrestler, she has committed the played-out conflation of Arab = Muslim. But the racism doesn't go away: another interview, Saeed refers to Kong as a "monster" who other wrestlers should not provoke. And then throws in a few garbledy Arabic phrases. Wrestling history is full of racist imagery, from The Iron Sheik to Sapphire. So neither Kong nor Saeed should come as a huge surprise. But that doesn't make it any less offensive. Saeed's character continues the designation of Arabs as Muslims, and Kong's character stirs up characterizations of blacks as animalistic and savage. It's just so played that it's almost funny (aside from the general hilarity of the choreographed ballet known as wrestling). Readers, what do you think of all this? Http://Muslimahwatch.com

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News Reel: Centuries-old traditions block women's inheritance

Centuries-old traditions block women's inheritance By Ramadan Al Sherbini, Correspondent Published: August 15, 2008, 23:59 Cairo: Faten, a mother-of-four, complains that her brothers have refused to give her a rightful share of the family inheritance allegedly because her husband is not a relative. "Since my father died in 1998, I have been unable to lay my hands on my share of the land and other property left behind by my father," Faten, 49, told Gulf News. "I can't file a lawsuit against my well-educated brothers for doing this because my act would disgrace the whole family." She said she had to borrow money from banks and friends to cover the high cost of preparing one of her daughters for marriage. She is one of many Egyptian women whose access to inheritance is blocked by centuries-old traditions denying them their share of inheritance on the grounds this will fragment the family's property and hand it over to strange spouses. The trend is believed to be rife in Egypt's rural areas where tribal traditions and male chauvinism are still deeply rooted. "Though Islam has elevated women's status and enshrined their right to the family's inheritance, some traditions and misconceptions continue to deprive them of this right," said Furkhanda Hassan, the chairwoman of the governmental National Council for Women. Hassan has recently proposed a draft bill to the Egyptian Parliament to criminalise the disinheritance of lawful heirs. "This practice is mainly due to a lack of proper understanding of the Islamic sharia [law]," Hassan added in press remarks, confirming her proposal targets women and men alike. Egypt's present Inheritance Law does not include a clear penalty against depriving rightful heirs of their share. "But the established rule is that refusing to give relatives their legal share of inheritance is tantamount to a breach of trust," said Fawzia Abdul Sattar, a legal expert. According to her, this offence is punishable by a maximum three-year prison term. "The majority of victims of illegal disinheritance are powerless women who shy away from taking legal action against the male members of the family who have robbed them of their rightful portion of inheritance," Abdul Sattar said. "Besides providing legal protection for women, there is a need to disseminate public awareness about this issue, especially as women's right to inheritance is unequivocally specified in Islam." No date has been set yet for the Government to refer the draft bill to Parliament. " Baaraka-Allaahu Feekum - wa sal-Allaahu wa-sallam 'alaa Nabiyyinaa Muhammad, was-Salaam 'alaykum wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuhu.     Http://ummismail.blogspot.com     Ummismail

Taking Off Hijab Syndrome

I borrowed this form Anisah Shukran sister!! Taking Off Hijab Syndrome She was over-weight but beautiful. She proudly wore her hijab everywhere. No one who saw her knew she was suffering from depression. Hoda* would come to the masjid every Friday listen to the lectures. At one point in time, she stopped coming to the masjid regularly and would pop in every once in a while. News came around that she went to the hospital for over-dosing on weight-loss pills. At that time I was a regular member of all-woman's gym. I would see her there regularly and every week it was like she kept dividing her body in two. It was a little odd to me, but mashaAllah she grew even more and more beautiful. One day at LSU I was walking to class and this skinny girl who I didn't recognize immediately passed by me and said, "Salam alaikum, Shirien!" and I look up and I reply "Walaikum Assalam!" and we both kept walking our separate ways. It was wallahi one of those moments when reality doesn't hit you until 10 seconds too late. I turned around to do a double-take to see who this sister was. And my mouth dropped. I realized it was Hoda. At that time my mouth dropped because she looked like a completely different person. But even later than that, I realized that she was out in public without her hijab, which left me speechless. I guess it didn't strike me as odd at first because I saw her all the time at the gym without her hijab. But when I realized what was really going on, a rush of grief overtook me. I couldn't believe it. Not only was her body image different, but her relationship with Allah soon became different as well. Most of us know someone who has put on the hijab and then taken it off. And dear sisters, if you are amongst them then do not despair, but take heed to the rest of what I have to say. During my first few days here in Egypt I went out with my cousin and her friend Lena* to this beautiful restaurant over-looking the beach. It was the first time I met Lena. She was sweet, kind and polite — she also happened to be a hijabi. We went out and had a great time. I don't know if i'll see her again any time soon. But I was happy my cousin had such wonderful friends, mashaAllah. Two days later, I'm with my cousin in the car stuck in traffic and she tells me "Did you know Lena took off her hijab?" I was like, "When? You mean a couple of years ago?"She replied, "No… I mean like yesterday. She's been wearing it for seven years now." I was baffled. The thought of going out without my hijab after putting it on - especially for so long- is unthinkable to me. Not only because 1.  I do it for the sake of Allah, but 2. Because it would make me feel so exposed and naked without it. I proceeded to tell my cousin that the intention probably wasn't right from the beginning. After all, a lot of people in Egypt do it because of culture, not religion. But my cousin refuted that and told me that she was very sincere when she put it on and Lena told her that she wore it for the sake of Allah. But WHY? What is the reason a person takes off their hijab if we know it is fard and we know that we are doing it to please Allah? What are the possible reasons that we might take off our hijabs? And then I thought back… and I thought about the low self-esteem. Not everyone who takes off their hijab does so because they never had the right intention. And not everyone takes it off because they have low self-esteem or family pressure. But still the question lingers… why? What is missing in our lives that we feel will be fulfilled with taking off our hijabs? One answer? The love and attention of people, whether we know it consciously or subconsciously. Allah 'az wa jal says in surat Al-Baqarah: "And of mankind are some who take (for worship) others besides Allah as rivals (to Allah). They love them as they love Allah. But those who believe, love Allah more (than anything else). If only, those who do wrong could see, when they will see the torment, that all power belongs to Allah and that Allah is Severe in punishment" It's seeking love from other than Allah. It's obeying (worshiping) society and desires and leaving the worship of Allah 'az wa jal. And wallahi dear sisters, it is this seeking of filling the void in the heart in places other than with Allah that brings a person to the edge of a very steep cliff — a cliff that can lead to a person's spiritual death. What we truly miss in our hearts that needs fulfilling, is the love of Allah. Dear sisters, whether we've never worn hijab at all or recently have decided to take it off, first, know that we do not judge anyone and what another's heart contains. The hearts belong to Allah and no one can know what is in another person's heart other than Allah. There are girls who wear hijab and commit shirk with Allah. And in the eyes of Allah they are nothing. Second, know that Allah 'az wa jal says in His noble book: "Say: "O Ibadee (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah, verily Allah forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." It does not matter what people think of us. If you feel, since you've taken off your hijab, people have judged you, then know that Allah 'az wa jal is the one who will judge between people on the day of judgment. So what matters is what Allah 'az wa jal thinks about you. And we should not seek love and attention from people before we seek it from Allah. Truly if you seek the love of Allah, then you will follow what Allah has sent with Muhammad Salallahu alayhi wa sallam and in turn you will gain the love of Allah and feel it in your hearts and be fully content. As Allah 'az wa jal says, "Say (Muhammad salallahu alayhi wa sallam): 'If you really love Allah, then follow me and Allah will love you. He will forgive your sins and Allah is the Oft-Forgiving, Most-Merciful.'" Third, every girl who starts to wear hijab late in her life always goes through this stage in which she thinks about what it will be like to "never go out with her hair done again." I know many sisters who set a time period of when they will start to wear hijab. They tell themselves, "I'm going to start wearing hijab FOR SURE, inshaAllah, when Ramadan starts." (Hopefully Allah allows them to live that long.) And we want to enjoy their time while we can before we actually commit to wear the hijab and never take it off. Subhanallah, we know what you are going through, sisters. But know that while we think that we are "enjoying your time before commitment," we will soon regret that time we spent before committing to hijab. When you do something purely for the sake of Allah, then you regret all the times you didn't do it. It's like a Muslim who starts to pray later in life, they soon regret all the times they didn't pray when they were supposed to. Allah 'az wa jal clearly gives us an order in the Quran to wear our hijabs, and who has more right to be obeyed and fully submitted to other than the one who created us, nurishes and provides for us? No one. Allah 'az wa jal orders the believing women surat An-Nur to: "…not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)…" We all say that we want to get closer to Allah. And it's always about taking that next step. Everyone deep down knows what that next step is in their life, whether it's actually doing something or even just refraining from one particular sin. "Taking Off Hijab Syndrome" or "Didn't Start Wearing Hijab Yet Syndrome" have cures. And that cure is found only with Allah. Seek help from Allah more than you would seek help from a doctor for a fatal disease. Because even doctors cannot cure diseases without the will of Allah. Take the first step and Allah will help you take care of the rest inshaAllah. He will take care of all the people who have ever judged you, he will take care of your beauty and most of Allah he will take care of that void in your heart. Wallahu alem. May Allah 'az wa jal guide us to the path that leads to seeing His Face in Jannah, and may Allah make it easy for all our sisters. Ameen. from a blog I read. :  http://egyptiangumbo.com/taking-off-hijab-syndrome-99.htm " Baaraka-Allaahu Feekum - wa sal-Allaahu wa-sallam 'alaa Nabiyyinaa Muhammad, was-Salaam 'alaykum wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuhu.     Http://ummismail.blogspot.com     Ummismail

FORCED INTO MARRIAGE WHAT DO YOU THINK?

8-year-old girl's divorce is finalized while a law to prevent early marriage stalls By: Hamed Thabet Nojoud reciving gifts in Yemen Times office in Sana'a. Eight-year-old Nojoud is now safe after an anonymous donor paid her 30-year-old husband to divorce her. Although this chapter of her life has closed, there are many other Yemeni girls who still suffer from early marriage and its consequences. Feminist groups in Yemen are urging the Parliament to legally define a minimum marriage age. However, there is a long way to go before girls like Nojoud can be free from detrimental early marriages. SANA'A, 16 April — A few months ago, Nojoud was an average 8-year-old girl from a poor family. Then Nojoud's father decided to marry her off to a man more than three times her age. Overnight, Nojoud became a wife, enduring physical and sexual abuse for two months until she ran away with the help of her uncle and filed a court case against her father and her husband. On April 15, with support from her lawyer Shatha Mohammed Nasser and Judge Abud Al-Khaleaq Ghowber, Nojoud paid her way out of marriage with YR 100,000 from an anonymous donor in the Emirates and happily became an 8-year-old divorcee. "This was the first time a girl came to us for a divorce. We are going to do our best to push the parliament to change the marriage law," said Judge Ghowber. "I am so happy to be free and I will go back to school and will never think of getting married again," Nojoud said joyfully. "It is a good feeling to be rid of my husband and his bad treatment." She said that she felt lucky that she did not have to continue in such a marriage and a live out a life similar to her sisters, who had been married young [though not as young as Nojoud] and have alr Nojoud with her lawyer in the court. eady bore children. "Although Nojoud does not know her real birthday, I believe this day she was born again and it would be apt to celebrate this day as the first day of her new life," said Nasser. Early marriage in Yemen: According to the International Center for Research on Women's 2007 statistics, Yemen is one of 20 developing countries where early marriage is common. Nearly half of all Yemeni girls are married before the age of 18. Most women have their first child immediately after their first menstruation cycle and are likely to have a child every 12 months during their reproductive lifespan. Yemen's fertility rate is extremely high, with an average 6.3 children per each woman, and the country also has some of the highest mother and infant mortality rates worldwide. According to research on early marriage in Yemen from Oxfam and the United Nations Population Fund, there are severe physical consequences that result from early marriage and subsequent early childbirth such as nutritional anemia, post-partum hemorrhages, obstetric fistula (a disorder that affects the bladder and causes leaking of urine or feces), plus mother and infant mortality. Additionally, many girls like Nojoud develop irreparable psychological complexes from early marriage and the forced sexual encounters that accompany it. Early marriage also contributes to divorce and family problems.<br> "I hated nights because they usually meant that my husband would come to my bed. I used to run from him and he would chase me and beat me and do his thing. I pray that my younger sisters do not face the same fate," said Nojoud. Now the 8-year-old is living with her uncle and his family in relative safety. A divided society The Yemeni personal status law stipulates that a girl cannot be wed until she is ready for intercourse, which in essence leaves the judgment up to the girl's parents or guardians. Judge Ghowber explained that early marriages are usually the fault of the parents. He insisted that there must be increased awareness among Yemeni families in order to avoid these serious mistakes. A number of Yemeni religious scholars, including some in the Evaluation and Jurisprudence Committee in the Parliament, say that since there is no religious statement defining a minimum age for marriage, then early marriage is perfectly fine if not desirable. Other scholars and religious authorities, like Judge Hamoud Al-Hitar, the Minister of Endowment, want to create legislation to prevent parents from marrying their girls off at a young age and to prevent religious sheikhs from endorsing such marriages. "Those who approve of girls marrying at 13, 14 or even below 18, are barbaric men who abuse childhood and are irresponsible," said religious scholar Yahiya Al-Najar, the former Minister of Endowment. He explained that there should be a minimum age for boys and girls to marry in order to complete their physical and mental development and so that they can manage the responsibilities of marriage and raising a family. Al-Hitar said that the minimum age of marriage should be 16-years-old, no less. He added that previous religious bodies in charge of jurisprudence wrote such laws in 1976 and in 1988. "Those who say that defining a minimum age for marriage is un-Islamic do not understand the religion at all," said Al-Hitar. "Defining a minimum age of marriage is a need dedicated by life's nature." The Yemeni parliament is equally divided between MPs who believe in safe motherhood (and thereby banning early marriage) and those who don't. Deputy speaker of Parliament, MP Himyar Al-Ahmar, said that he supports the creation of legislation against early marriage, requested by the Women's National Committee, but prefers to forward the issue to the Evaluation and Jurisprudence Committee, which is strongly against such legislation. Rasheeda Al-Hamadani, chair of the Women's National Committee, promised to continue to raise awareness about the issue by holding workshops soon with religious leaders, MPs and decision makers. " Baaraka-Allaahu Feekum - wa sal-Allaahu wa-sallam 'alaa Nabiyyinaa Muhammad, was-Salaam 'alaykum wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuhu.     Http://ummismail.blogspot.com     Ummismail

The road to hijab*Gulf-times*

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Published: Friday, 18 April, 2008, 01:30 AM Doha Time

The road to hijab In order to even find the road to hijab, much less walking on it, one must first realise that the hijab of the Muslim woman is not Arabian, Pakistani, Black or White American, etc. It is the command of Allah, the conditions for which have been given in the Qur'an and Sunnah, in order to provide protection and safety for women. Here are a few aspects one needs to consider. Intention The first step on the road to hijab is the proper intention (Niyah). The wearing of the hijab is the compliance to the command of Allah, therefore it can be classified as an act of worship. As with all acts of worship, the fundamental underlying principle is intention. The hijab must be worn for no other reason except to comply with the order of Allah, solely for His sake and seeking His Pleasure. If it is not done with this sincere intention, then it becomes an act of either hypocrisy or of ar-riyaa (showing off). If a Muslim woman wears hijab because, for instance, of an overbearing husband or father, and in her heart she dislikes it, or feels that it is a form of injustice: then she may very well have taken an act deserving of reward into one that may not bring about any reward in the hereafter. If all that Allah expected from our acts of worship were outward manifestations, then He would have graciously accepted the Islam of the hypocrites during the time of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. The same is true for the woman who wears hijab because it's what the women around her do. She covers from head to toe in black to impress the people with her piety. When she is abroad, where no one she knows will see her, save her Lord, she does not wear the proper hijab. She then falls under the threat of Allah's punishment, as the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, "Whoever does a deed for the people, then Allah will give him to the people." Knowledge The second step on the road to hijab, is knowledge. The great scholar of hadith, Imam Bukhari said, "Knowledge must precede both statement and action." It is of the utmost importance for a woman who is seeking to observe the proper hijab, to ascertain sure knowledge, based on the Qur'an, Sunnah and the understanding of the first generation of Muslims. Unfortunately in this day and age, there are no shortages of books written on the issue of hijab by both Muslims and non-Muslims alike that are full of misleading information. It therefore becomes incumbent on Muslim women to gain sure and correct knowledge on this topic, in order to be better able in ciphering through the misinformation that is so predominant on this issue, and getting to the truth. When hijab is observed with the proper intention and based upon sound knowledge, it then becomes a firm conviction in the heart. Due to this conviction, it becomes less likely that the hijab will be abandoned; either based upon the weak arguments of would-be Muslim "scholars", or the everyday pressures of living in a "modern" society and its false call to women's liberation. For the true desire of these people is as Allah says in the Qur'an, "Verily those who like that (the crime of) illegal sexual intercourse should be propagated among those who believe, they will have a painful torment in this world and in the hereafter. And Allah knows and you know not." (24:19). Love The third  step on the road to hijab is love. It is among the signs of true belief that all acts of worship are manifested from love of those actions. The love of the hijab and the haya (inhibition or bashfulness) of the first generation of Muslim women has slowly been worn away from the hearts of modern-day Muslim women. Once Ali ibn abi Talib asked his wife, Fatimah, "What is the thing most beloved to a believing woman?" Fatimah replied, "Not to see or be seen by strange men." What happened to this love of modesty? Unfortunately for many Muslim women, this love has been replaced with the love of women's liberation or the love of what has become prevalent in one's culture or homeland. In order for the love of the hijab to be returned to the hearts of Muslim women, we must remove from our hearts the disease that suggests that the hijab makes us inferior to men and restricts our womanhood. These are whisperings of the Satan calling Muslim women to abandon their honour and their status as the best women of creation. The hijab of the Muslim woman is her right and her honour ordained by the Lord of the worlds. It is her light that separates her from the darkness of the disbelieving women. It was narrated that the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, "The parable of a woman who moves with a slow sweeping motion, trailing her beautiful clothes, performing not for her husband, is like darkness on the Day of Judgment; she has no light." (Tirmithi) Awrah The awrah of a woman is the areas of her body, which must be covered. The respected scholars from past and present have differed in whether the veil should cover the hands and face, or whether it is sufficient to cover everything, save the hands and face. Aisha reported that once her sister, Asmaa, visited her in finery while the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, was at home. He turned away from her and said, "O Asmaa, when a woman reaches puberty it is not lawful for her to uncover any part of her body except this." He then pointed to his face and hand palm. (Abu Dawoud) The above narration is one of the most commonly cited as proof for leaving the face and hands uncovered. The main consideration of this opinion must be what constitutes the face and the hands. The above statement clearly illustrates that the hand is the part of the body, which extends below the wrist bone. The definition of what constitutes the face can be found in another tradition of the Prophet, sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. He pointed from his forehead to his chin and from his cheek to the cheek. (Abu Dawoud) It may be of importance to note that ears must also be covered because they are not a part of the face, but are a part of the head as he, sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, said, "The two ears are a part of the head." (Tirmithi) This opinion also does not allow for the uncovering of the neck and breast. The khimar must cover the entire head, including the ears, all of the hair, come down from the head to cover the neck and the bosom. This is clear in the statement of Allah "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and be modest, and to display of their adornments only that which is apparent, and to draw their veils, (ie, khimars) over their bosoms, and not to reveal their adornment..." (4:31) Also among the things that must be covered are the clothes that a woman wears in her home. It is not sufficient for a Muslim woman to go out in pants or a skirt, a long shirt, or even a shalwar kamees and a khimar, because many times the clothes that a women wears in the house are themselves adornments. As the above verse states, Allah forbids the believing women from displaying her adornments, except to those people who are clearly named out in the verse. Allah also commands His Prophet to tell the women in the verse, "O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) around them (when they go abroad). That will be better, so that they may be recognised and not annoyed. Allah is every Forgiving, Merciful." (33:59) Even though the hijab is not merely a covering dress, equally as important, it is behaviour, manners, speech and appearance in public; there are certain standards of dress however, conditions of hijab, that must be maintained.     (Living in the kufar Lands, it better to cover the whole <ie.. face*> of the body, Men in Round here don't know to lower there gaze.Allah truly knows best)

Marriage by Phone

KOLKATA, India (Reuters) - An Indian Muslim couple exchanged wedding vows by telephone after the groom, who lives abroad, said he did not have money to return home to get married, a cleric said on Friday. Muslim clerics married Irin Biswas, 18, to Safikul Islam, who is employed as a labour supervisor in Kuwait. The entire village in Murshidabad, West Bengal, watched as the clerics put a mobile phone on speaker mode, enabling them to hear the wedding vows. "They said qubul (I do) thrice and the marriage was complete," Maulana Alamgir, a cleric who solemnised the marriage said by telephone. He said modern ceremony was not against Islamic laws. The bride, in endless interviews to the local media, said she had seen Safikul only once, when he was home for holidays. "I have never spoken to him but now I speak to him daily," Irin told reporters. Safikul is due to meet his wife for the first time in October this year when he eventually comes home for holidays, family members said. (Reporting by Sujoy Dhar; Editing by Bappa Majumdar) (For the latest Reuters news on India see: in.reuters.com, for blogs see blogs.reuters.com/in/ )     " Baaraka-Allaahu Feekum - wa sal-Allaahu wa-sallam 'alaa Nabiyyinaa Muhammad, was-Salaam 'alaykum wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuhu.     Http://ummismail.blogspot.com     Ummismail

Veiled Muslim Wife Rejected france Citizenship

France rejects veiled Muslim wife Faiza M was described to be living "virtually as a recluse" A French court has denied citizenship to a Muslim woman from Morocco, ruling that her practice of "radical" Islam is not compatible with French values.     The 32-year-old woman, known as Faiza M, has lived in France since 2000 with her husband - a French national - and their three French-born children. Social services reports said the burqa-wearing Faiza M lived in "total submission to her male relatives". Faiza M said she has never challenged the fundamental values of France. Her initial application for French citizenship was rejected in 2005 on the grounds of "insufficient assimilation" into France. She appealed, and late last month the Conseil d'Etat, France's highest administrative body which also acts as a high court, upheld the decision to deny her citizenship. " Baaraka-Allaahu Feekum - wa sal-Allaahu wa-sallam 'alaa Nabiyyinaa Muhammad, was-Salaam 'alaykum wa-Rahmatullaahi wa-Barakaatuhu.     Http://ummismail.blogspot.com     Ummismail

Hijab: An Act of Obedience

By Dr. Muhammes Ismail Translation and notes by Dr. Saleh As-Saleh From the book: The Hijab...Why?  The hijab is an act of obedience to Allah, and to his messanger Muhammad (sallalahu alahe wa salam). He (subhan wa ta Allah) says:   " It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His Messanger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messanger, has indeed strayed in a plain error." (Quran 33:36) Allah also says:   " But no by your lord, they can have no faith, untill they make you ( Muhammed) a judge in all sisputes between them, and find in themselves no resistance against your decisions, and accept them with full submission" (Quran 4:65) Indeed, Allah ordered that women must put o­n the hijab1 He (subhanna wa ta Allah) says:  " And tell the believing women to lower their gazes ( from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts ( from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except what must (ordinarily) appear thereof, that they should draw veils over their Juyubihinna2." (Quran 24:31) Allah considered the dazzling display of beauty an act of ignorance:   " And stay in your house and do not display yourselves like that of the times of Jahiliyeeeyah (ignorance)." (Quran 33:33) He, the most glorified, says:   " And when you ask the prophet's wives for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen." (Quran 33:53) The above ayah does not apply o­nly to the Prophet's wives but to all the believing women. Carefully read the folllowing saying of Allah (subhanna wa ta Allah):  " O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) over their bodies(when outdoors). That is most convenient that they should be known and not molested."  (Quran 33:59) The Prophet (sallalahu alahe wa salam) said: The woman (i.e. any woman) is A'wrah,"  that is she must be covered. -------------------------------------------------------------- Footnotes: 1This is not something cultural. It is Allahs order. Its conditions are not Arabian, Egyptian, Pakastanian, Black or White American, etc. Its conditions are specifies in the Quran and the Sunnah to provide protection and safeguarding of women. No o­ne knows about what is good for men and women more that their creator, Allah. His laws are wise as it is the case with all His actions. 2Juyubihinna: The respected scholars from As-Salaf As-Saleh (righteous predecessors) differed whether the veil cover of the body must include the hands and face or not. Today, respected scholars say that the hands and face must be covered. Other respected scholars say it is preferable for women to cover their whole bodies. 3No o­ne can ignore the molestation of women that exists in the so called " open" societies. The question is: Why is it happening? The answer begins to shape up when people think about the purpose behind creation. Allah created us for the single purpose of worshipping Him alone. He detalied all  the ways to fulfill this purpose in the last Revelation to mankind, the Quran. In it we can find how women and men can safeguard their dignity, honor, and morality. The worship of Allah is manifested in the following of his orders. Allah orders that men and women must avoid all the roads that lead to anamalistic ways of living. The hijab is o­ne of Allah's commands. It is an honor and protection for women as well as a true freedom for her body from the hands and eyes of aggressors and molestors.    Allah is Islam. And those who were given the Scripture did not differ except after knowledge had come to them - out of jealous animosity between themselves. And whoever disbelieves in the verses of Allah, then indeed, Allah is swift in [taking] account.  Al-Imran(3):19 As Salaamou Alikum , Baraka Allaahu Feeki, Ummismail     Http://www.ummismail.blogspot.com